Tag: Happiness

Striving to be your Best, Not for Perfection

“Striving for perfection” is a statement I strongly disagree with. Firstly, what even is perfect? (Having all the required or desired elements, absolute), AKA – there is no such thing.

We seem to be living in a world where people are trying to portray themselves in this way. Instagram and other forms of social media are abundant with posts where people are sharing their “perfect” lives. I believe this is beginning to cause more harm than good – especially for younger generations who are vulnerable and exposed to these sorts of images.

Now, I would be hypocritical if I tried to deny loving a post on the insta. However, I believe the posts I share are reflective of my life and of course I only share the best bits – that is why we must remember that social media is typically a highlight reel. Do not compare. Do not follow people who make you feel shit.

Forget Everyone Else, You do YOU

A common attribute people seem to have these days is to seek approval from others. When did we stop trusting ourselves? Why are we not listening to our own instincts? We need to value our own opinions.

Don’t get me wrong, I am a huge advocate of asking others for help, advice and just being open in general. However, there is a point where we have to take back the responsibility for ourselves.

Ultimately, we are in control of our lives. Other people’s opinions should not alter or deter the decisions we make. Live for you. Be you. Do you.

Take Back your Control

If you are reading this and resonate with it, perhaps there are things in your life that you want to achieve, but someone has said something that has lead you to be filled with doubt. Please bear in mind that you can take back your control over this.

Self belief goes a hell of a long way, no matter how big or small your goal. Take the responsibility for yourself.

I hope you are able to take something away from this post today. I was inspired by a number of conversations I have had recently and it made me realise we need to be striving to be our best selves. Here are a few things I would like you to remember:

  • Don’t let other people’s negativity stop you from achieving your goals
  • Take responsibility for your own actions, then you and only you can be held accountable
  • Mistakes are a way for us to grow – they teach us lots of important lessons
  • You are in control of your life, as are you with your social media use
  • Believe in yourself
  • There’s no time like the present
  • There is no such thing as perfection

Eloise Xx

Our Thoughts Become Our Realities

Have you ever heard of the law of attraction? It is simply the idea that explains how our lives are created through one thing; our thoughts.

The Power of the Mind

Many of us do not realise how powerful our minds are. We have thousands, perhaps even millions of thoughts that cross through our minds each day. Many of these are so small, we think of them as insignificant.

The truth is, everything we think about becomes our reality. We are creating our own lives through our thoughts and the way we think.

This can be an overwhelming concept to grasp, as we also have negative thoughts which create negative outcomes.

Positivity and Thoughts

A positive thought vibrates at a high energy level and is so extremely powerful. If you think about the way your mind can talk you into doing something, that is an example of this positive though process.

However, negative thoughts can easily spiral out of control. Like positive ones, we can talk ourselves out of something due to an overload of negative thoughts.

We can easily become stuck in a negative thought pattern which will become visible in our reality.

We Can Make the Change

Naturally, some days we will wake up and feel low. Understanding that we can control how long we feel this way for is a very powerful tool to grasp.

Always accept how you feel, listen to what your body is telling you and let it do what it wishes. Sometimes we require silence, stillness and rest. Other days, we will wake up feeling energised and radiant. 

We are able to shift these thought patterns whenever we feel ready. After feeling low, we can shift our mindset into a more energised one and then we will feel lifted and light. If we continue allowing our mind to feel low and perhaps negative, we will continue to feel this way in ourselves.

Once we grasp the concept that we can actively make that shift, we understand that we are able to live our lives to their full potential and listen to the paths that have been set out for us!

Thank you for reading.


Eloise Xx


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Learning to Let Go

Let go

As Autumn is rapidly approaching, now is a great time to let go. Whilst trees are dropping leaves, we can mirror this and drop any doubts we may be feeling.

Give your Feelings Some TLC

Checking in with ourselves is so important for our mental health. Having an understanding of our feelings and thoughts can give us a great insight into what is going on in those great minds of ours.

If you listen to yourself in a way which suits you, perhaps a full body scan through meditation, you will come to understand yourself better. With this, you can decide if there are any underlying emotions which can be let go of.

Picture letting go. I am not going to tell you how to do this, as each of our imagination’s will be so very different.

Take a leap of faith into the new and unknown, ready to start a new chapter feeling light and free.

Practice makes Perfect

Although there is no such thing as perfect…

Letting go seems simple, however, some of us may struggle more than others. This is totally normal.

This is because our mind is a muscle, so being consistent is key. Pushing ourselves out of that comfort zone is the only way we will ever change.

We have to build up this muscle through training, we are shaping our mind. Learning a new skill takes time, energy, persistence and patience. If you understand this and are ready to let go of bottled up thoughts, then I believe in you.

Let Go of the Fear

Many of us are afraid or a little anxious of the unknown. If you think about it, nothing is really known. We don’t know exactly what will happen tomorrow, or next month, so why waste energy worrying about it.

Things happen for a reason, life is full of lessons. I believe we need to start trusting the unknown and letting whatever happens, simply happen.

If you think about it, scientists have a lot of unknowns as well. We don’t know what is in this universe, if there are other life forms or when the world will end. But, I bet you we don’t sit and worry about these things everyday do we? No, because they are unknowns and out of our control. 

That is where we let go. Using this logic may help you let go in your own life and start trusting what is around you.

Thank you for reading.


Eloise Xx


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Happiness is a Way of Life

You may have heard the saying “happiness is not a destination, it’s a journey”, and as corny as this may sound, it is definitely true.


Stop Waiting for Happiness

If you spend your life thinking “I will be happy when…” then trust me, you will never be happy. Happiness comes from within, therefore, your mindset will have a major impact on the way you feel.

In a time where we live our lives online, many of us may find ourselves comparing our looks and lives to others. Remember that Instagram shows the fun parts, the things people want you to see. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, if you know me, you will know I love sharing photos.

However, if we keep this attitude of comparisons, we will also struggle to feel happy. It is actually detrimental to our mental health.

The Best Time is NOW

If you really start embracing the present moment, you will be really living! Now is the time you can start something new, break an old habit and really make a change.

Yes, you may plan ahead and be organised, however, arranging to do something ‘tomorrow’ will be actually done in the present moment.

A saying my Grandad ingrained into me, which at a young age, I struggled to understand;

“Today is tomorrow, yesterday.”

If you think about it, then there is nothing untrue about that quote. It goes to show how time passes.

Be Happy and Be You

Feel your happiness. Find your happiness. The way you think impacts the way you feel.

Of course, there are things and people that can make you happy. But, happiness is a feeling and it is sourced from your own head. Keep on doing the things which add to your happiness. Spending time with positive people will also remind you to think happy thoughts.

Thank you so much for reading, as always!


Eloise Xx


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