As we are over 3 weeks into the new year, I wanted to share my recent thoughts from the first few weeks of 2020, and finding joy is one of them.
Joy for the Self
One thing I have vowed myself to do more of, is meditation. I didn’t set any rules, I simply chose to start meditating more. For the past 3 years I have delved in and out of it, but I was never consistent enough to reap any benefits.
I have meditated consistently now for the longest period ever, even if it’s just 3 minutes a day. Where possible, I do it first thing in the morning, before I properly start my day. I’m going to be honest, this doesn’t always happen, due to lack of time, or me simply just not wanting to.
Personally, I use the Headspace app, which enables me to set reminders on my phone. If, by the time I go to bed, I haven’t yet done my daily meditation, I do it before I go to sleep.
Being More Mindful
Joy is not about constant happiness, no one feels happy all the time, it’s impossible.
Joy is more about finding pleasure in the little things. Okay, meditation may not be your thing (although I urge you not to knock it before you try it), but it is one of those things people do for joy.
In your everyday life, I think so many of us are constantly distracted by our thoughts, phones, or watching Love Island. Whilst putting your phone away to focus on something is sometimes easier said than done, I don’t think that’s a long term solution.
Finding time to just stop and think about everything that is going right in your life will help you achieve a more positive mindset. Focusing on negatives is proven to cause anxiety, worries and spiralling negative thoughts.
For you, joy might be the simplest thing. It doesn’t mean you have to start a gratitude journal or any weird rituals (things I have never done), it often just means being more focused on the present.
Joy for me is smiling at cute dogs when I’m out for a walk. I do this all the time and I usually say hello to the dogs and, then realise I should probably look up and smile and say ‘hi’ to their owners.
Whatever it is, make an effort to be more mindful, appreciate the little things and start loving yourself a bit more.