Hello all. I hope you are having a great weekend. This is my my second post for June, I have been on holiday, so I decided to have a little break from writing. Today I am going to discuss the act of forgiveness.
Forgive, Forget & Flourish
You may often hear the phrase “I forgive but I don’t forget”, and I disagree with this. Of course, some people we come across will act in a specific way or do certain things we don’t agree with, or they may even cause us to hurt. However, the way you chose to react to this will be what you remember. For instance, if someone states their opinion about one of your personality traits, you can ask them why they think that, then move on, or you can take their comment to heart. If you do the latter, the way you respond to their opinion will affect how you feel. You are basically then giving them the power to hurt you. I don’t believe we should do this.
In order to grow and learn, we must understand why we are so defensive about certain things. There will always be people who disagree with you in life, and you may not get on with them. But these are things we have to accept. We have to understand that it is all just a matter of opinion, so allow yourself to forgive. Stop putting your valuable energy into something you don’t like. Let it go. Yes, this is easier said than done, but practice makes perfect.
Learn to Self Improve
One of the most important things in life, in my eyes, is to make sure you do what is best for you. Take risks and chances if you believe they will benefit you. The same goes for people. Forgiveness is often the most moral option we have, so rather than listening to your ego, try listening to your heart. You know what is right.
Don’t be hard on yourself. Forgiving yourself is just important as forgiving others. Never punish yourself for something you have done, just accept it and learn how you can better yourself.
Your mindset can be altered if you want to make a change. If you start allowing yourself to forgive people, you will see what a difference it makes. Don’t expect other people to do things, just live each day being present and doing them yourself. An example of this is – if you hold a door open for somebody and they don’t say thank you, you allow feelings of anger and annoyance to arise. In other words, you were expecting them to give thanks. Don’t. Is their lack of gratitude really going to change your mood? Think about it. Just forgive, just do.
Some do believe in karma, some do not. As with everything, it is your personal choice what you believe in. Karma explores the idea that everything you do comes back to you. However, that doesn’t mean that you should do something for someone with the expectation that they will do it back. Again, forgive, it will allow you to feel peaceful and at ease. You will receive thanks for it, just not in the way you might have expected. Open your heart and this will become more apparent.
I hope you found this interesting. Thank you for your continued support.